Wednesday, September 28, 2016

THAT GUY: The Scaredy-Cat

So you're pairing up in class to learn a new technique - we'll call it a wrist lock.

You stand still and allow your partner to figure out how to apply the lock.  He does a good job of putting you in the lock - nice and tight, lots of control, and painful - no injury, just temporary pain.  You shake it off, and now it's your turn.

Your partner immediately shifts before you even get a chance to figure out the mechanics of the lock.  It doesn't work. You shift around, trying to get the right angle, and eventually, maybe, you half-ass it (you're pretty sure the lock isn't being applied properly, mind you) and your partner squeals in agony.

Congratulations, you've paired up with The Scaredy-Cat.

The Scaredy-Cat isn't injured or has some sort of trauma in their past.  The Scaredy-Cat is just afraid of feeling any pain at all, and doesn't trust you or anybody else to have the judgement or the skill to not injure them.

The thing about the Scaredy-Cat is that they're just fine with putting YOU in pain or risking your injury.  It's not a general problem with the idea of hurting folks.  It's just not a two-way street.

The Scaredy-Cat will change the distance when you are working a technique to make sure you're always in the wrong range (in case you mess up and accidentally hurt them somehow).

The Scaredy-Cat taps before you've put the arm-bar in place.

When you are working locks, the Scaredy-Cat will either move to counter before you can figure out how the lock works OR will overreact to the first slight feeling of pain.

The Scaredy-Cat will wince and close their eyes when learning how to block with weapons.

The Scaredy-Cat will shift to make your throw or take-down that much more difficult (and ironically, risking injury to the Scaredy-Cat).

The Scaredy-Cat will overreact to any small injury, bruise, or bit of pain whatsoever.

The Scaredy-Cat does not want to feel the slightest bit of pain whatsoever.  Not that any of us enjoy pain...

Wait a minute, I know some of you people.  Let me amend that.

Not that most of us enjoy pain a lot...

I'm talking about you, you, and ESPECIALLY you.
The Scaredy-Cat does not understand the difference between pain and injury.  They don't know that a small amount of temporary pain now helps you learn two things - that pain isn't really that scary in the first place, and that in a bad situation, pain by itself may not prevent you or the bad guy from doing injury to one another.

A huge problem with working as Scaredy-Cat's partner in drills is that you'll never get to do the technique properly. Either it gets countered immediately, before you have a chance to figure it out (after all, everything has a counter), or they overreact so badly that you can't tell if it's working or not.

I've run across three Scaredy-Cats in my training.  Luckily, a Scaredy-Cat doesn't tend to last a very long time in a martial arts class - either the Scaredy-Cat eventually relaxes and learns the difference between pain and injury and gets over it, or they end up pursuing another far less risky hobby.

Have you dealt with a Scaredy-Cat?  Have you been one?  Tell us your stories in the comments!

To see all of the THAT GUY posts, click HERE.

Monday, September 26, 2016

THAT GUY: The Dilettante

So you have this new guy who shows up to train with your group.

He's got some experience- a little bit of this martial art, a little bit of that martial art - and now he's trying yours.

He spends much of his time working on your basics, but he's always questioning everything he's shown and noting how they do things differently in another martial art.  After anywhere from three months to a year or so, he's gone, off to try another martial art style.

You've met THAT GUY: The Dilettante

The Dilettante is the guy who never quite settles into any martial art long enough to master much beyond the basics (anywhere from three months to two years at most).  He believes, after low-to-mid level training in a martial art that he knows everything there is to know of that art.

He is often one of the people who will mis-quote Bruce Lee as a justification for what he's doing.

I don't think this means what you think it means.  Image found here.  

There's no rule that says that a person has to study the martial arts for anything other than his own personal amusement.  There's nothing wrong with that.  We all train with different motivations, after all.

Some of us don't have the patience or the desire to spend years mastering a martial art. That's why so many people quit when they reach intermediate level (that green/blue/purple belt range).

That's where it becomes very hard work and it's not for everybody.

It becomes problematic when, after years of skimming through the basics of a bunch of martial art styles, the Dilettante decides that he knows better than you do, after years of study in your style, how to train what you study.

I have had a Dilettante correct me on something in some footwork in Arnis that didn't apply to what we were doing or to the strategy we have in what I study.  When I pointed out that what he was saying didn't apply in the context (what he was thinking was appropriate for a longer, heavier bladed weapon, not a short light one)... he grumbled a bit and granted that maybe I might have a point.

Gee, thanks.

Some Dilettantes keep to themselves, but much of the time, you will find him making commentary to other low-level students about how such-and-such does it this way or how he thinks that this other style has the better idea.  Sometimes it's enough to disrupt class, then you have to spend a lot of time countering what he's saying. Or he might be the guy at the seminar who spends most of the time not practicing what is being shown, but comparing it to other stuff he's seen.

Or even worse, he decides he knows enough after riffling through the martial arts to start his own martial art style.

But most Dilettantes don't do that (thank goodness).  Instead, they skim over the martial arts like a stone skipping over the water of a lake, never understanding much beyond very basic information.

That's just how some people see the world.  Some folks get bored quickly and don't have the commitment or the patience to work through to deeper understanding of what we do.  Some people don't have what it takes to stick with it when it gets difficult.

That's our buddy the Dilettante.

It's a shame, because the Dilettante has an interest in the martial arts, obviously, and if he could settle down into a style, he might be good.  Unfortunately, most of them never do settle - and they'll always have a low-level skill and understanding.

Ah well.  Some people just have to be guy at the all-you-can-eat buffet that just has to take a bite of everything offered.

Have you met THAT GUY: The Dilettante?  Tell us your stories!

To see all of the THAT GUY posts, click HERE.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

My Week in Stick Chicktivity - 09/24/16

Here's how my week of training, writing, teaching, and miscellaneous Filipino Martial Arts-y goodness went.

What have you been up to this week?


Saturday:  Went to Clear Lake Modern Arnis in Houston to attend a wonderful seminar with Master Romeo Bollares.  SUPER FUN and a 10 hours round-trip drive.  Yay.  I saw a whole lot of Texas, and it was just a relatively small slice of it!
Sunday:  Practiced kobudo. Watched my Chiefs get their butts handed to them.
Monday:  My night off!
Tuesday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.
Wednesday:  Attended class at Hidden Sword.  Marital Arts.  Showed them some of the stuff I picked up in Houston and my teacher riffed off of that the rest of class.
Thursday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.  Getting the kiddos ready to test at the end of the month.
Friday: Younger daughter had to stay home, so I stayed home with her.  Mr. Chick taught at Mid-Cities Arnis.

Playing "ninjas", a movement drill, with the kiddos.


I posted this post of original content this week:
Monday:  Change Partners
Wednesday:  3 Reasons the Filipino Martial Arts ROCK (for Women)

I re-shared these posts:
Tuesday:   In Defense of Performance Martial Arts
Thursday:  More on Strike Mechanics
Friday: FACE-OFF FRIDAY: Gi/Uniforms or No Gi

(If you have a good idea for a Face-Off Friday topic, let me know!)

I am moving my blog content on Facebook from my personal profile to a page for the Stick Chick Blog.  If you're on Facebook and want to get notified of new posts (and see all sorts of other martial arts content), please like my page and share it with your friends:  The Stick Chick Blog on Facebook


This might be the best season of "Enter the Dojo" yet.  Every episode is a winner.

I definitely think this is a move in the right direction: West Point now making boxing mandatory for female cadets


Long weekend.  We have our monthly Modern Arnis training session (four hours) today, then we teach ADE Women's Self Defense tomorrow.  Whew!

So what did YOU do this week?  What did you train? What did you teach?  Did you see any really cool martial arts stuff online?  Let me know!

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

3 Reasons Filipino Martial Arts ROCK (for Women)

I go to a lot of seminars and I train with a lot of people, not just in Dallas-Fort Worth but all over Texas and the United States. It is not unusual for me to be the only woman in the room when I'm training.  Even at seminars, there may be only one or two other women in a crowd full of guys.

Exhibit A.

This is not terribly uncommon in the martial arts world - for women to be the minority on the mat.  It's something you have to be used to when you're a woman who likes to practice violence as a hobby.

I tell you what, though... man, I sure wish we could get more women into the Filipino Martial Arts, because it's just so made for us, y'know?

Here's some reasons why:

Weapons Are the Great Equalizer

In reality, in a self defense situation, 99% of us would be prefer to be armed than unarmed.  A weapon of any kind is that great of an advantage versus unarmed.

It's especially true for women in self-defense situations vs. a male.

I'm hearing some of you already, "Who walks around armed with a stick?"  (and maybe a snicker or two).

Don't make me come over there.

The stick is a stand-in for other stuff.  It can be an umbrella, a walking cane, a backpack or purse, a pen, a knife, a machete, a tire iron... any tool, really.  Our training methodology lends itself very well to improvised weapons, and most of us walk around with something that can be used in a pinch!

Strength is not the Primary Factor

Being strong is, of course, always an advantage in fighting or in self defense situations.  The FMA's are no different.

But being strong is not in itself the primary factor in being good at the FMA's.  Timing, speed, and accuracy (targeting) are.  Strength is helpful, of course, but timing, speed and accuracy are things that women can develop just as well as men can.

Thus, in the FMA's, the playing field is a little more level for the women in the room.

Being Short is Less of a Problem

We'll all agree that, all things being equal, that being tall and having a long reach is definitely an advantage when it comes to violent situations. No argument there.

In the FMA's, though, we learn to work with what we are given (and force the opponent to give us what we want).  This means that we learn what targets are good no matter who we are facing and what we are presented with.

I'm 5'2" (about 158 cm) tall.  I'm usually one of the shortest adults in the room when I train.  Thus, instead of going for head shots on tall people, I have learned to take the arm (hand, wrist, elbow, under the bicep), the torso (too many great targets to list here), the neck/under the chin, the inner thigh, and the legs as targets versus tall people.

I get on the inside of the person's reach, then...

It's pretty awesome.

I hope that more women check out the FMA's as a martial art to study, because as you can see, I think it's well-suited to the average female martial artist.

What do you like about the FMA's for women?  Or what other arts are great for women - and why? I'd like to hear what YOU think!

Monday, September 19, 2016

Change Partners!

I go to a lot of seminars and special training sessions.  This year, it's been an almost monthly event for me.

I love going to them - obviously - for a lot of reasons.  I love learning new stuff - or fresh takes on old stuff - from the experts.  I love the connection you end up making with other martial artists with the same interests you have.  I love being able to train with people I don't know well. 

That last point is important. When you stay in your own school and with the same training partners over time, you know what their strengths and weaknesses are, you understand how they will react. They know the same thing about you.

It becomes a little predictable.

When you train with strangers (or people you don't train with every day) you don't have this level of predictability.  That makes you pay closer attention to what you're doing, what your partner is doing, and not take anything for granted.

This is a good mindset to have - it keeps you on your toes.

The temptation, at seminars, is to stick to the people you know, or, once you find someone you're comfortable working with, staying with them throughout the entire seminar.  This is a mistake - not only are you not meeting new people (again, one of the funnest part of the experience) but you don't get as much out of the seminar content as you should or could if you switch partners.

Yes, I used the word "funnest" deliberately.  I REGRET NOTHING.


You see, of the best things about going to seminars is that you end up training with people of all different skill levels.  You play with newbies, you play with intermediate players, you play with peers, and you play with people who are above your level.  There's something to be learned from each.


The fun part of training with newbies is twofold.

First off, if you are getting what's being taught and they are not, you feel like you're some sort of genius when you help a newbie work on it.

And I'm very, very humble about it too.

The second great thing about working with newbies is that you get to be a part of the process of their becoming a part of this nerdy little community of ours.  Look at it this way: They're a newbie to this acquiring bruises for fun thing, and they don't know you.  You know that they are nervous about hurting you or themselves, or looking dumb, or not getting it, or wasting your time.  You work with them, help them, make them feel comfortable, help them're totally cool to them and they now think you're awesome, and they get the impression that all of us are like that (and most of us are).

You help them become part of our tribe.  That's important, and honestly, makes me feel pretty good about myself.

The big down side, of course, is for that section, you'll spend more of  your time helping the newbie instead of getting in more reps of the technique yourself.


These are the folks who are not new to training, so they have some experience, but are a lower level of skill than you are.  This group is fun to play with, because you still look like you're a genius, like you do with a newbie, but you'll actually get more reps in than you do with a newbie.


These are the people who are the same level as you are.  When you play with peers you get to work out and solve problems of what you're trying to learn together. 

Basically, you and your partner can nerd out together on an equal level. And all y'all know how much I love nerding out.

Gawd, yes.


Finally, at seminar you'll work with people who are way more experienced or skilled than you are.    That makes you the "intermediate player" to them.  The advantage to you here is that the other person ends up helping you learn what you're trying to master relatively quickly, and that you might pick up a little something extra from them in the process (such as stance correction, or a little tip or trick to make the technique work better).

So there's things you will get from each of the kinds of people you'll meet at a seminar.

This is why sticking to your friends, or your own school, or finding one person to work with throughout the seminar is a bad idea.  If you pick a newbie or an intermediate player, you'll spend the whole seminar teaching someone else.  If you choose a peer, you won't ever see the advanced stuff the people who know more than you will share if you train with them.  If you choose and advanced person, you'll never get to nerd out or help another person along.

At your next seminar, see if you can spot the four kinds of people, and make sure to work with each one.

Change partners, and get more out of your seminar experience.

Tell us about your seminar experiences and working with the types of people I listed above.  Did I miss anybody?  Let us know in the comments!

Saturday, September 17, 2016

My Week in Stick Chicktivity - 09/17/16

Here's how my week of training, writing, teaching, and miscellaneous Filipino Martial Arts-y goodness went.

What have you been up to this week?


Saturday:  Started training at our "Okinawan Karate Club" and then trained in nunchaku at Kobudo.  Nunchaku is a lot easier than I was anticipating - and thus far, has been the easiest of the kobudo weapons for me to pick up.
Sunday: Kevin attended +Hock Hochheim's Knife Course so I stayed home and did chores.
Monday:  My night off!
Tuesday:  Had to stay home from Mid-Cities Arnis with Younger Daughter.  It is a good thing we have two of us teaching so I can do that on occasion.
Wednesday:  Attended class at Hidden Sword Marital Arts.  Worked on sinawali and two stick vs. 1 stick drills.
Thursday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.  Worked on self defense with the kiddos and Dos Manos in Force Necessary.
Friday:Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.  Review and stick sparring goodness!

Working our "swim out" self defense technique


I posted this post of original content this week:
Monday:  Martial Arts Study (Just for the Fun of It)
Wednesday:  A Black Belt is a Black Belt is a Black Belt

I re-shared these posts:
Tuesday:   How to Get More Women In Your Martial Arts School
Thursday:  We're All Full of It: The Pervasiveness of Shenanigans Among Serious Martial Artists
Friday: FACE-OFF FRIDAY: Only Fighting Ability Matters?

(If you have a good idea for a Face-Off Friday topic, let me know!)


I haven't been mentioning kubudo practice in my daily round-up, but nunchaku practice is going well.  Thus far, it's been the easiest weapon in our kobudo program for me to pick up.  I don't know if I should be relieved, or a little worried about it!

Marc MacYoung put out another great blog on an important topic - check it out.  Tribes, Super-tribes and Uber-tribes

Todd got promoted this week!


Today we're driving to Houston to attend a seminar by Master Romeo Bollares at Clear Lake Modern Arnis. Very excited to meet more of the folks at Clear Lake and to create connections there!

So what did YOU do this week?  What did you train? What did you teach?  Did you see any really cool martial arts stuff online?  Let me know!

Wednesday, September 14, 2016

A Black Belt is a Black Belt is a Black Belt?

A friend and I had a conversation the other day that amounted to the both of us expressing the opinion that basically, you're a black belt in a martial art, or you aren't.  All of the ranks before that rank - and all of the ranks after - are really not terribly necessary in the overall scheme of things.  In my opinion, the value of these ranks is mostly about marketing and loyalty more than anything else, and it's not always needed, depending on the style and the student body involved.

If a black belt rank in an art really is "someone who has mastered the basics" and now is skilled enough to do the real learning - and I believe this is true, at least in my case and in my ideal world - then yeah, after you earn a black belt, after that, it's just a matter of continuing to learn and grow after that.

I know that I am a different black belt now than I was when I was first promoted, that's for sure.

My friend is one of those folks more oriented to the combative sport arts - MMA, Muay Thai, BJJ, Boxing, and so forth.  Long-time readers know I am not one of those people - I don't really even watch UFC matches - and I tend to gravitate toward weapons based and traditional arts.

But both of us ended up with the same basic opinion.  You're a black belt, or you aren't.

Or you're Jim Kelly, and all bets are off.
Image found here.

Where we diverge, though, is that he is stuck on the idea that a black belt has an objective meaning.  He thinks that if you have a black belt, it should represent a certain standard (and one that, from his point of view, is oriented towards combative sports).

The problem is - it doesn't have an objective meaning, and it can't.

The big reason, of course, is that what "mastering the basics" means varies greatly from school to school and style to style.  When I earn my black belt in kobudo, it's a very different kind of black belt than the one I earned in Presas Arnis, or the one that my hubby earned in Pacific Archipelago Combatives or Goju-Shorei weapons systems.  While all are weapons arts, they're not the same thing(s).

The basics we learned in those weapons arts have bupkiss to do with, say, the basics that would be needed to have a black belt in BJJ.  Or what Older Daughter's black belt in Taekwondo required.

His real point, though, is that there ought to be some way, in the martial arts community, to have some sort of quality control.

This idea pops up from time to time in the martial arts community, usually in the wake of frustration of fake grandmasters, fraudulent lineages, or after yet another news story of a martial arts teacher engaging in criminal conduct (like Sensei Scumbag) - or all of the above.

As you know if you read this blog at all, I am VERY sympathetic to that frustration.

But I don't see an acceptable way to have this quality control.

There is an idea some quarters that there should be a governmental agency or process by which martial artists have to earn a certification from a governmental exam board, pass background checks,and so forth, in order to teach.  The immediate problem with this is that who decides what the standards are - for example, which version of taekwondo is "legit" in the eyes of the government?  And why?

I think this is an incredibly bad idea, and do not support it in any way, shape or form. Not only would it not be very effective (as most government licensing programs are not quality control anyway)...  how do you enforce it?  Will there be Dojo Cops storming underground dojos and arresting unlicensed teachers?  Is that what we want?  And if you think martial arts training is pricey NOW, just wait until the government gets involved!

Government efficiency FOR THE WIN!

I do support, however, the idea that I know is in development of doing background checks, maybe through an organization that would be similar to the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval in the martial arts world.  I would totally support that getting off the ground.

Other ways that my friend was thinking about quality control was in the ring itself - your win/loss record or something along those lines.  I don't think this works well either, as there are a number of factors that go into winning and losing a fight, and that would automatically make people who are not totally physically fit and healthy ineligible to earn the rank, even if they have all the knowledge necessary.  It would also be very, very difficult to do this for lots of the weapons arts.

So we're left with the fact that black belt is a subjective measure.  That "mastery" is also a subjective measure.  We have to accept the fact that the fakes and the belt mills that produce "inferior" black belts - whatever that means - exist and will continue to exist.

There is a reason we call it a martial art - because it is so subjective.  As an aside... you guys calling it martial science... I want to how you've validated what you are teaching using the scientific method, please, and your test results, against what kind of control group you maintained, thanks a bunch.

What does "black belt" mean to you?  Is there a way you think it can be more objective as a measure in the martial arts?  I want to know what you think!

Monday, September 12, 2016

Martial Arts Study (Just for the Fun of It)

So a small group of us have started what I've started thinking of as a "master class" in Okinawan Karate.  We meet once a month for a couple of hours to work on fundamental Okinawan Karate concepts.

It's a small group - four of us, plus an instructor.

It's very informal - we just got our gis and belts on and started studying.  We used our first class working on the finer points of stances (and moving forward and backward in those stances), and we started learning Pinan Nidan.

The video below is this form, but not quite the way we are learning it (similar, yes, but some of the details are different).

Here's the cool part - we aren't studying for rank.  Rank, for now at least, isn't a thing in this study group.  I am not a white belt studying for yellow or green belt.

It's just four people studying karate from an expert teacher in the art.  Just to learn it.  For the fun of it.

All four of the people in the group are experienced martial artists.  There are two black belts in other arts - myself and Older Daughter.  One of us has high rank in more than one art, and the other is a brown belt prepping for black.

The reasons we are all studying are different.  But rank can't be one of the reasons.

For myself, it's a way to enhance my empty hand skills as well as my kobudo study.  It's also a chance to learn from a martial artist I greatly respect in an art I greatly respect.  It is a way to challenge myself, mentally and physically.  It's a way to keep connected to Older Daughter, who is also in the group.

And it's FUN.

I understand the function of rank, and I get it, but I am definitely enjoying the idea of just studying and then some day, maybe, I'll be good enough and know enough for a black belt rank.  But it's not really a top concern.

Right now, I'm just working on my stances and Pinan Nidan and enjoying all I'm getting from it.

Have you had the opportunity to study a martial art style or concept and rank wasn't a thing or a concern?  You just did it to get good at it, to stretch your abilities and skills, or to just have fun with it?  Let us know in the comments!

Saturday, September 10, 2016

My Week in Stick Chicktivity - 09/10/16

Here's how my week of training, writing, teaching, and miscellaneous Filipino Martial Arts-y goodness went.

What have you been up to this week?


Saturday:  Flew to St. Louis for my High School Reunion.
Sunday: More Reunion Fun.
Monday:  Came home, exhausted.  It was a long and fun weekend but glad to get back home!
Tuesday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.  We have switched our 6:00 class to a more formal program, so I'm getting used to doing arnis in a full gi again.
Wednesday:  Attended class at Hidden Sword Marital Arts.
Thursday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis. Our adult program, Force Necessary: Self Defense, got off the ground this week.
Friday:Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.  Review and stick sparring goodness!


I posted this post of original content this week:
Wednesday:  Living the (Martial Arts) Life
Friday: FACE-OFF FRIDAY: Is "Karate" a Generic Term for "Martial Arts"?

I re-shared these posts:
Tuesday:   Confessions of a Martial Arts Snob
Thursday:  The Myth of Wasted (Martial Arts) Time

(If you have a good idea for a Face-Off Friday topic, let me know!)


Just... wow.

If I missed a neat video or article or other martial arts related thing of note, let me know in the comments!  I'm still looking for guest bloggers - if you want to try your hand at writing an article for the Stick Chick Blog, hit me up, thanks!


Today is kobudo day where I drive over to Dallas, and I'm excited for it.  Yep, excited to do nunchaku.  GO FIGURE.

I'm also starting a new empty hand training program that I'll talk about in the near future today.  Older Daughter is joining me, so that's going to be really neat.

So what did YOU do this week?  What did you train? What did you teach?  Did you see any really cool martial arts stuff online?  Let me know!

Friday, September 9, 2016

FACE-OFF FRIDAY: Is "Karate" a Generic Term for "Martial Arts"?


In the United States and Canada, it's not unusual for martial arts schools to use the term "karate" on their signage or when advertising their schools.

This applies even if what is being taught isn't actually one of the arts we'd call "Karate" - it might not even be a Japanese (or Okinawan) martial art at all.

On the one hand, "karate" is a well-enough known term that most people outside our community understand what it means, and most people don't care whether or not what is being taught is Japanese.  I have been told by school owners a big advantage to using the word "karate" on building signage is that it's cheaper than, say, "taekwondo" because it has fewer letters!  The term "karate" is also very understood in social media, and is a popular "hashtag" (#karate) for anything martial arts related.

On the other hand, if you don't teach a Japanese martial art - if you're teaching taekwondo or something - it's not really accurate to call what you do "karate", is it?  Some of us would call it false advertising, and that using the term generically waters down the actual styles that really are Japanese empty hand styles ("real" karate).

But I want to know what YOU think.


Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Living the (Martial Arts) Life

Taking up the study of the martial arts completely changed my life in a number of important and dramatic ways.

At least I did when I started acquiring bruises for fun.

I've written how it's helped me with my insomnia. I've also written how it's become something that Mr. Chick and I do together (and I believe it's important in marriages to have hobbies that the couple does together).  I started all this in the first place in a quest to get off my butt and stop a quickly approaching sucky old age (instead, I want to have a quickly approaching AWESOME old age).

I credit studying martial arts with saving my life, really - it changed me so dramatically that I am far healthier and happier than I was going to be if things hadn't changed.

It's a rare day where I am not doing something martial arts related - going to class, teaching a class, practicing, reading about it, watching video, or even writing about the martial arts here on this blog.  I do have a regular job - one I enjoy - but I don't spend a lot of time outside of work thinking about it (and I definitely don't write a blog about it).

Over time, the martial arts has come to dominate almost everything about me.

My family life is somewhat dominated by the martial arts.  All four of us - me, Mr. Chick, Older Daughter, and Younger Daughter - do something.  In fact, Older Daughter and I are getting ready to join a new class together, just for fun and growth.
The family that slays together, stays together.

I don't drink like I used to, nor do I go out much.  Not that I'm opposed to it, mind you, I'm just so... busy.  I don't have time to do that stuff.

My social circle has become more and more martial arts oriented.  And usually, we're doing martial arts things when we get together.

I plan and prioritize my time based upon what I'm planning to do in the martial arts - and I have to plan months ahead, to accommodate seminars and camps I know are coming up.  Yes, this includes plans around holidays and vacations, and how I'll use what vacation time I have available to me.

85% of photographs of me taken in the last five years are me doing something martial arts related (if you're curious, 13% are non-martial arts family-related, 1.5% are Kansas City Chiefs related, and .5% are "other").

I am more than one kind of Chick, y'all.

Our future plans - where we're going to move, what we want to do in the future work-wise, where we want to live, what we want to do in retirement - is completely dominated by our martial arts goals.

Our budget includes line items for training costs and martial arts equipment purchases.

I came to it late, but I live a martial arts life.

I wouldn't have it any other way.

Tell me about how your participation in the martial arts affects how you live.  Are you a healthier person?  Do you wish you were more balanced in your life?  Let me know in the comments!

Saturday, September 3, 2016

My Week in Stick Chicktivity - 09/03/16

Here's how my week of training, writing, teaching, and miscellaneous Filipino Martial Arts-y goodness went.

What have you been up to this week?


Saturday:  I went to MAPA 10. Three hours of expert-y FMA goodness, and one hour of yours truly.  I wrote up the experience below.
Sunday: Caught up on chores and did a little kobudo.
Monday:  My "Day Off".  Made dinner so I have lunches to eat for the week.
Tuesday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.
Wednesday:  Attended class at Hidden Sword Marital Arts.
Thursday:  Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.
Friday:Taught class at Mid-Cities Arnis.

Met teaching at MAPA 10.


I posted this post of original content this week:
Monday:  MAPA 10: Good Vibrations
Wednesday:  Punching Up

I re-shared these posts:
Tuesday:   The Vale of Values
Thursday:  Trust Issues
Friday:  FACE-OFF FRIDAY: Are Values Necessary?

(If you have a good idea for a Face-Off Friday topic, let me know!)



My friend Cathy Chapaty wrote an important blog that you really need to read.  There's Something Odd About My Instructor.

If I missed a neat video or article or other martial arts related thing of note, let me know in the comments!  I'm still looking for guest bloggers - if you want to try your hand at writing an article for the Stick Chick Blog, hit me up, thanks!


In the US, this is a holiday weekend.  Happy Labor Day!

Today I'm flying back to the city I grew up in to attend my high school reunion!  Lots of activities planned and it promises to be a fun weekend.

Yes, I sometimes do things that are NOT martial arts related.

So what did YOU do this week?  What did you train? What did you teach?  Did you see any really cool martial arts stuff online?  Let me know!